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I get that it's not resource extraction, but its not espionage either, and I personally don't see the need for 'I can neither confirm nor deny that I want sex'.
I also get that its about making people feel comfortable. I'm more comfortable if people are fairly upfront about what they want, but I get that it's just me who feels this way. I'm really bad at picking up on subtext, I have conversations like this:
Other person: "We're spending a lot of time together, its almost like we're being a couple."
Me: "Yeah, we have been hanging out a lot."
several months later...
Oh. I get it now. Why couldn't he just say he wanted a relationship?
And things can get even worse if one person thinks coffee means sex and one thinks it means coffee. I know a girl who has been accidentally raped because of drunken misunderstandings.
BTW I'm impressed that you went to the fuss of making a table :)
The usual term is flirting.
A lot of the time people are not sure about what they want (or whether the cost-benefit is favorable). Socially acceptable delaying tactics are important.