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Facebook friends are a non-think button press or in other words, pretty much nothing (unless you keep in contact, and in that case they're just friends)
My idea for the next incidentgate is (and seems kinda silly when typing it) "Hi I remember you from HS and always thought you were kinda cute but I was too shy to talk, would you like to meet up sometime?"
PEDANT EDIT: There's also a few girls from middle school before I moved, (Same city, different school)
Were I single, and did not have memories of you being a horrible person, I would respond positively to that message.
On the other hand, I AM on the autism spectrum and am told that I'm not a representative example of the group "Human Females."
It would be effective on most people, I think, regardless of gender. The "you were kinda cute" part flatters the ego, while being weak/soft enough a compliment to avoid making somebody suspicious that that is what you are doing. The "I was too shy to talk" suggests self-improvement and self-awareness, which are attractive qualities on their own; and then the message itself conveys confidence, which paired with that self-awareness and self-improvement, implies that the confidence is both genuine and earned, avoiding arrogance and hubris both.