Also, I might want to have a short introductory conversation before that message. Don't feel like this should be copied word for word, but something like this:
You: "Hey, how's it going?"
Her: "Hello! It's going well!"
You: "I saw [recent mention or post about something relevant to both your interests, non-sexual]. [Comment on thing, keep it positive]."
Her: "[response]."
THEN maybe the high school message. Again: autism. So don't take my advice as the pinnacle of social skills. :)
It looks like a conversation with a person I haven't talked to in something that isn't either long enough for them to forget about me or someone close I haven't talked to in some time.
But let's be pedantic and you'll probably like this or the autism stereotypes aren't true, here's a few scenarios:
Your example will probably work on category 1. Category 2 MIGHT go along, although a simp...
There's a lot of data and research on what makes people successful at online dating, but I don't know anyone who actually tried to wholeheartedly apply this to themselves. I decided to be that person: I implemented lessons from data, economics, game theory and of course rationality in my profile and strategy and OkCupid. Shockingly, it worked! I got a lot of great dates, learned a ton and found the love of my life. I didn't expect dating to be my "rationalist win", but it happened.
Here's the first part of the story, I hope you'll find some useful tips and maybe a dollop of inspiration among all the silly jokes.
P.S.
Does anyone know who curates the "Latest on rationality blogs" toolbar? What are the requirements to be included?