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"Why are people seduced by the pernicious meme that finding love requires no deliberate effort?"
Possibly because relaxing about their dating prospects makes them more attractive. For people whose effort looks like desperation, they may have better results if they stop trying so hard.
EDIT: I think I just did the thing that has been annoying people. I searched for the contrarian statement I could make, rather than any other type of commentary or response. I'm sorry.
No, I think it's reasonable. This is good advice for correcting the particular failure mode most people engage in, but it lacks sufficient... specificity, and results in a different mode if applied without discernment (which Jacobian's response does, quite usefully). So your comment furthered the debate, and added information.