My real life experience says otherwise, and there's also the question of why women wouldn't like their appearance to be appreciated despite spending a non-minor amount of their time on it.
The point isn't that woman don't like their appearance getting appreciated, it's:
(1) Opening a conversation that way signals a focus on physicality instead of getting to know them as a person. It signals only wanting sex.
(2) If you wouldn't find a girl "kinda cute" you wouldn't ask her out. There no additional information communicated.
(1) Opening a conversation that way signals a focus on physicality instead of getting to know them as a person. It signals only wanting sex.
I'm using Mark Manson's methodology* and I'll just be lazy and quote him
At MarkManson.net, I encourage men to pursue women with honesty and authenticity because this screens for women who are honest, authentic and conscientious themselves, making for far better relationships.
In other words, telling a woman that she's pretty and I'd like to get to know her is both about honesty and self-expression AND the woman h...
There's a lot of data and research on what makes people successful at online dating, but I don't know anyone who actually tried to wholeheartedly apply this to themselves. I decided to be that person: I implemented lessons from data, economics, game theory and of course rationality in my profile and strategy and OkCupid. Shockingly, it worked! I got a lot of great dates, learned a ton and found the love of my life. I didn't expect dating to be my "rationalist win", but it happened.
Here's the first part of the story, I hope you'll find some useful tips and maybe a dollop of inspiration among all the silly jokes.
P.S.
Does anyone know who curates the "Latest on rationality blogs" toolbar? What are the requirements to be included?