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philh comments on Open Thread April 4 - April 10, 2016 - Less Wrong Discussion

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Comment author: Clarity 05 April 2016 09:29:16AM 0 points [-]

Isn't admitting preference for someone the the coup de grace of romance?

Comment author: philh 05 April 2016 01:27:12PM 4 points [-]

Not if she also has a preference for you.

You want to avoid suggesting that you're more into her than she is into you. So "we've been on one date and now you're my girlfriend, right?" is usually a bad idea. But "we've been on one date and I'd like to go on future dates" is probably okay (if she doesn't want more dates, it wasn't going anywhere anyway).

(Massive overgeneralization, of course, and also I'm not qualified to talk about this.)