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I'm not criticizing the article, nor am I criticizing you. I'm criticizing a certain way of approaching things like this. I purposely refrain from staking a claim on whether it applies to the article or to you because I'm not interested in convincing you that it does or even determining for sure whether it does. I get the impression that it does apply, but who knows - I haven't read the article and I can't read your mind. If it doesn't, then congrats, my criticism doesn't apply to you.
You're thinking is on a very similar track to mine when you suggest the test "assuming you're wrong, do you want them to agree or be right?". The difference is that I don't think that people saying "be right, of course" is meaningful at all. I think you gotta look at what actually happens when they're confronted with new evidence that they are in fact wrong. If, when you're sufficiently confident, you drop the distinction between your map and the territory, not just in loose speech but in internal representation, then you lose the ability to actually notice when you're wrong and your actions will not match your words. This happens all the time.
I've never had a geography or arithmetic class suffer from that failure mode, and most of the time I disagreed with my teachers they responded in a way that actually helped us figure out which of us were right. However in geometry, power electronics, and philosophy, I have run into this failure mode where when I disagree all they can think of is "how do I convince him he's wrong" rather than "let me address his point and see where that leads" - but that's because those particular teachers sucked and not a fault of teaching in general. With respect to that paper, the title does seem to imply that they've dropped that distinction. It is a very common on that topic for people to drop the distinction and refuse to pick it up, so I'm guessing that's what they're doing there. Who knows though, maybe they're saints. If so, good for them.
Agreed.
I can straightforwardly say to you that there were dinosaurs millions of years ago because I expect that you'll be with me on that and I don't particularly care about alienating some observer who might disagree with us on that and is sensitive to that kind of thing. The important point is that the moment I find out that I'm actually interacting with someone who disagrees about what I presupposed, I stop presupposing that, apologize, and get curious - no matter how "wrong" they are, from my own viewpoint. It doesn't matter if the topic is creationism or global warming or whether they should drive home blackout drunk because they're upset.
A small minority of the times I wont, and instead I'll inform them that I'm not interested in interacting with them because they're an idiot. That's a valid response too, in the right circumstance. This is imposing social costs for beliefs, and I'm actually totally fine with it. I just want to be really sure that I am aware of what I'm doing, why I'm doing it, and that I have a keen eye out for the signs that I was missing something.
What I don't ever want to do is base my interactions with someone on the presupposition that they're wrong and/or unreasonable. If I'm going to choose to interact with them, I'm going to try to meet them where they're at. This is true even when I can put on a convincing face and hide how I really see them. This is true even when I'm talking to some third party about how I plan to interact with someone else. If I'm planning on interacting someone, I'm not presupposing they're wrong/unreasonable. Because doing that would make me less persuasive in the cases I'm right and less likely to notice in the cases I'm not. There's literally no upside and there's downside whether or not I am, in fact, right.
I wouldn't ask this question in the first place.
Yes. It doesn't surprise me that you believe that.
That seems like the sort of thing that really needs stating up front. It's that Gricean implicature thing again: If someone writes something about goldfish and you respond with "It's really stupid to think that goldfish live in salt water", it's reasonable (unless there's some other compelling explanation for why you bothered to say that) to infer that you think they think goldfish think in salt water.
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