The problem seems to be that you think that you need to choose a goal. Your goal is what you are tending towards. It is a question of fact, not a choice.
Well, we have language so our discussion of goals is feeding back to the goal choosing mechanism. So apart from our 'needs' which we could consider base and inescapable goals we have the ability of creating imagined goals. Indeed people often die for these imagined goals. So one question among many is "How do we create and/or choose our imagined goals?".
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