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Honestly, 7 sounds like a fairly small number. I don't remember how many people I messaged, but it was a lot more than that. Profile optimization seems to definitely help a lot. Also, one has to remember that females seem to be getting messaged a lot more than guys, so you generally need something in your message that stands out, especially showing that you read their profile and found something interesting.
I may be a biased source in regards to how effective this is. The last three people I've dated (including my now current, sort of long-term girlfriend) I met on OkCupid, although I think she messaged me first.
Reluctantly, I agree with you that seven women is fairly small set. Maybe my searches weren't properly done or my standards were too high, but these were the only women I found attractive in my searching.
To my credit, I definitely did try to put something my message that stood out, especially something related to her profile. I think one of the errors in my messages was that I came off too strong.
Congratulations! I'm glad that the service is working for you. Gives me a bit of hope (=