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Comment author: torekp 10 October 2014 02:05:00AM *  3 points [-]

Understanding the emotional pain of others, on a non-verbal level, can lead in at least two directions, which I've usually seen called "sympathy" and "personal distress" in the psych literature. Personal distress involves seeing the problem as (primarily, or at least importantly) as one's own. Sympathy involves seeing it as that person's. Some people, including Albert Schweitzer, claim(ed) to be able to feel sympathy without significant personal distress, and as far as I can see that seems to be true. Being more like them strikes me as a worthwhile (sub)goal. (Until I get there, if ever - I feel your pain. Sorry, couldn't resist.)

Hey I just realized - if you can master that, and then apply the sympathy-without-personal-distress trick to yourself as well, that looks like it would achieve one of the aims of Buddhism.

Comment author: SaidAchmiz 13 October 2014 04:25:15PM 0 points [-]

apply the sympathy-without-personal-distress trick to yourself

If you do this, would not the result be that you do not feel distress from your own misfortunes? And if you don't feel distress, what, exactly, is there to sympathize with?

Wouldn't you just shrug and dismiss the misfortune as irrelevant?

Comment author: hyporational 13 October 2014 06:40:57PM 3 points [-]

If you could switch off pain at will would you consider the tissue damage caused by burning yourself irrelevant?

Comment author: SaidAchmiz 13 October 2014 10:25:54PM 2 points [-]

I would not. This is a fair point.

Follow-up question: are all things that we consider misfortunes similar to the "burn yourself" situation, in that there is some sort of "damage" that is part of what makes the misfortune bad, separately from and additionally to the distress/discomfort/pain involved?

Comment author: CCC 14 October 2014 07:32:55AM 2 points [-]

Consider a possible invention called a neuronic whip (taken from Asimov's Foundation series). The neuronic whip, when fired at someone, does no direct damage but triggers all of the "pain" nerves at a given intensity.

Assume that Jim is hit by a neuronic whip, briefly and at low intensity. There is no damage, but there is pain. Because there is pain, Jim would almost certainly consider this a misfortune, and would prefer that it had not happened; yet there is no damage.

So, considering this counterexample, I'd say that no, not every possible misfortune includes damage. Though I imagine that most do.

Comment author: Lumifer 14 October 2014 06:00:21PM 2 points [-]

Consider a possible invention called a neuronic whip (taken from Asimov's Foundation series).

No need for sci-fi.

Comment author: hyporational 14 October 2014 09:53:01AM *  0 points [-]

Much of what could be called damage in this context wouldn't necessarily happen within your body, you can take damage to your reputation for example.

You can certainly be deluded about receiving damage especially in the social game.

Comment author: CCC 14 October 2014 02:29:33PM 0 points [-]

That is true; but it's enough to create a single counterexample, so I can simply specify the neuronic whip being used under circumstances where there is no social damage (e.g. the neuronic whip was discharged accidentally, no-one know Jim was there to be hit by it).

Comment author: hyporational 14 October 2014 02:58:57PM 0 points [-]

Yes. I didn't mean to refute your idea in any way and quite liked it. Forgot to upvote it though. I merely wanted to add a real world example.

Comment author: torekp 13 October 2014 09:01:38PM 0 points [-]

Let's say you cut your finger while chopping vegetables. If you don't feel distress, you still feel the pain. But probably less pain: the CNS contains a lot of feedback loops affecting how pain is felt. For example, see this story from Scientific American. So sympathize with whatever relatively-attitude-independent problem remains, and act upon that. Even if there would be no pain and just tissue damage, as hyporational suggests, that could be sufficient for action.

Comment author: VAuroch 11 October 2014 01:10:56AM *  -2 points [-]

Huh, that sounds like the sympathy/empathy split, except I think reversed; empathy is feeling pain from other's distress vs. sympathy is understanding other's pain as it reflects your own distress. Specifically mitigating 'feeling pain from other's distress' as applied to a broad sphere of 'others' has been a significant part of my turn away from an altruistic outlook; this wasn't hard, since human brains naturally discount distant people and I already preferred getting news through text, which keeps distant people's distress viscerally distant.