The original recipe used eggs instead of banana and butter instead of coconut oil, so those are certainly doable as replacements. For other vegan options, I like chickpea flour as an egg replacer because it's cheap and shelf-stable, though there's also Just Egg or other commercial egg replacers. For the coconut oil, any solid fat will do, e.g. Crisco or any vegan butter (though most of those contain coconut oil).
Empirically my answer to this is yes: I'm due in January with my second.
When I had my first child, I was thinking in terms of longer timelines. I assumed before having them that it would not be worth having a child if the world ended within a few years of their birth, because I would be less happy and their utility wouldn't really be much until later.
One month after my first baby was born, I had a sudden and very deep feeling that if the world ended tomorrow, it would have been worth it.
YMMV of course, but having kids can be a very deep human experience that pays off much sooner than you might think.
Update:
Solstice is less than one week away! Here are a few updates that I promised.
Parking: When you arrive, follow signs for “Quaker Meeting” or “Country Day School.” Parking is permitted in gravel lot in the back of the meetinghouse, along the driveway on its left side, and along the side of Dogue Lane, the street on the right of the Meeting House. The Country Day School has allowed us to use their parking lot for the event, so you can also park in the paved lot to the left as you come in.
Childcare: I haven’t heard from anyone about this, and I was the only one using the paid childcare last year, so we’ve decided not to hire the babysitter this year. But if you plan to bring kids, I’d still love to hear from you so we can coordinate (my toddler will be in the audience with a friend).
Songs: We have a song list for the year! If you want to familiarize yourself with what we’ll be singing ahead of time so you can sing along, check it out here: https://tigrennatenn.neocities.org/solstice_2023
Let me or Rivka know if you have any questions or concerns.
DC/Baltimore
December 2nd
FB event: https://www.facebook.com/events/1170803117213501/
LW event: https://www.lesswrong.com/events/86QzMxdEthKaPwQKw/dc-secular-solstice-1
I got a lot of value out of How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/book/
The high level takeaway is that these tasks become much more manageable when you establish a consistent set of habits and routines around them. There's a lot of very specific step by step advice for creating those habits. It's still the same amount of work, but feels less overwhelming once you have a grasp on how much work it actually is and experience with each task.
No, it's supposed to be for June 20th, sorry.