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Note, when speaking of risk, I don't only mean big things. I more generally mean - proceeding even when there is a space of uncertainty.
In other questions, I've noticed you've covered what is called "ask vs guess culture". When we have to ask someone before we can do something, often what bothers us is not the asking, but the potential of hearing a no.
But is hearing a no such a bad thing? Is having to negotiate a boundary such a bad thing? I think one often too strongly assumes that people will answer no.
If one looks into "rejection therapy", there are many videos of someone experimenting with asking people for... (read more)
It's taken me a while, and this is an old post, but I think I've found what I've wanted to say:
Where does risk figure in all this? It almost sounds like you equate "optimal" with the path of zero risk, or at least the path of zero unknown risk.
Such an attitude towards risk would not be "optimal" if you wanted to say, play Elon Musk's game of experimental rocket technology.
And if we want to talk about "value", then a person who is willing to take on risk is very often viewed as more valuable.
Musk says:
I think I feel fear quite strongly. So it’s not as though I just... (read more)
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for number 4, did you ever make deductions about her behavior and see whether she agreed you had insight into her?
if not, it sounds like a simple ego game where they were trying to play higher than you.
if they can't acknowledge that you can have insight into them, there's little reason to do the opposite either.
and if these intuitions are correct, its good you're no longer friends.