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I kind of implicitly assumed we are not talking about missing the obvious stuff (like someone staring at you angrily in a 1 to 1 conversation). That would probably best be explicitly learned by flashcards.

Everything but basic emotions has a lot of hidden states and the tracking becomes much more of a thing. But that state is not all that hidden. You actually know a lot about the people in your life. 
The hard part is coming up with enough hypotheses and not separating true from false. I call it to myself 'generating social conspiracy theories' to get r... (read more)

2lsusr
To clarify: I am looking specifically for a tool that trains me to read facial expressions—especially eye expressions—better. This is exactly what I am after.

The test scores me as 'normal' with 29/36. I remember doing a similar (maybe the same) test and scoring decidedly below average about two years ago.

I understand the attraction of having this skill trainable in its own context like flashcards but consider it a false shortcut.  I think it is more about directing attention. 

Setting aside a few cycles of my attention to practice in every day life worked for me and I think it should be wildly superior to treating it as a problem of categorizing features.

1. You get so much more context to infer fr... (read more)

4joec
How did you do this? Did you simply ask yourself "how does this person feel" in a social context? Did you get feedback through asking people how they felt afterward? If so, how do you deal with detecting states of mind that others are unlikely to openly admit (e.g. embarrassment, hostility, idolization)?

I tried similar things more than once. 
It is just as frustrating as learning to not let attention wander when meditating, but on a bigger time scale.
Edit: Also just as worthwhile I hope

1qvalq
Thank you for the comparison.

The vagueness of your observations makes your question completly meaningless.

7playablecharacter
I am wondering if there are other people on LW who have noticed these things. I expect most people reading the OP to either not know what I am talking about, or to have a guess at what I am referring to, but disagree that these things are concerning.