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I have hypothesis that diversifying your interests, values and desires makes you much less insecure and anxious while boosting your confidence.   Personal Example and How Idea Came to Being In recent months I had huge increase in my confidence in all areas of my life. But I haven't got any better at them. But my social, business, intellectual and athletic confidence is booming like never before. Anxiety and overthinking is gone, too. I care less, I am more happy and I seem to accomplish everything with so much ease. At first I thought I am just getting older so I care less and am getting naturally more secure and confident. But I wasn't happy with that as full explanation. While I am sure there might be multiple factors at play, I think diversifying my interests, values and desires did the trick. When I was starting my gym rat journey and saw all buff guys being more jacked and stronger than me, I felt insecure. When I got into business and at some business conference I saw everyone making more zeroes per month than I did per year, it made me feel insecure. When I started cooking and I saw and tasted dishes of other cooks, it made me feel insecure about my skills. But then came tipping point. At some point, I became slightly above average in all of those things. Never the best, but good enough than whenever I came to my gym I was richest entrepreneur, best cook, best at BJJ, knew most about quantum physics etc. Even though I wasn't strongest and best looking in my gym, I was most confident because gym wasn't my single interest from which I derived my values and self-worth. I was looking at myself as a whole of all other skills and experiences. I stopped being too focused on one single domain. And this went for all other areas. I meet with multimillionaires but I am more confident in conversation than they are, because I don't perceive myself as being worse at business than them, but as being more fit, better at BJJ, better at physics, better cook etc. etc. Wha