Personally, I feel some confusion.
On the one hand, ones personal usage of a chatbot probably wouldn't be more than a drop in the bucket in terms of producing bad consequences such as increasing the demand for chatbots and marginally pushing AI capabilities forward.
But on the other hand, I at least feel a strong sense of disdain for them. To me it feels like the beginning of the end. It's a marked step forward in what we've all been anticipating for so many years.
This obviously isn't a perfect analogy, but imagine if someone killed your family, got away with it, and operates the best restaurant in town. Would you eat at their restaurant? Probably not. I think most people would feel a strong sense of disdain, and even though eating at their restaurant wouldn't lead to any bad consequences, still wouldn't dream of eating there. Similarly, AI advancements are probably going to lead to doom, and so even though my usage wouldn't really move the needle at all, I still feel a lot of aversion.
I don't want to conflate the question of managing ones emotions with the question of how one "should" feel. Here, I am asking about the latter.
I’m not using ChatGPT or any of its ilk and plan to continue to do so for the foreseeable future. Basically for the rough reasons described by OP.
I see people make the argument that an additional subscriber doesn’t make a big difference on the margin. But as far as individual choices consumer choices go, that’s all the leverage you have!
I think most people would agree that the eventual logical outcome of this technology is highly volatile, potentially including some very very negative outcomes in the mix. I think basic moral logic compels us not to engage with something like that. Doing otherwise is like destroying the commons but with no easy way of reparation.
Justifying it with “it increases my productivity” seems laughable and ironic when you consider the long term consequences.
The way I’m approaching this internally though is kind of like most vegans approach their choice, I think. It’s becoming a life choice, a moral one, and I think ultimately the right one. But I do not want to be militaristic about it. And while everyone is using ChatGPT around me I continue to love them and will do so until the end.