It's only a guarantee that staying alive indefinitely for a chance at a cure is worth it if if you assume that the value of the pain that they'll go through until then is zero. Most suicidal people disagree with that assumption. For example, if your depression is so bad that every day is agonizing, is it really worth it to live for a 2% chance of that it would be curable on the day of your 80th birthday?
The length of time that the torture lasts is undeterminable by you until the torture is over, every second is agony, and you can tap out at any time and choose to lose out on those happy-years. That's the offer on the table for your suicidal person. It's an easy thing to say you would take this offer, but I'm pretty skeptical that the average person would actually be able to make it.
In many cases, you have to claim to be getting better or they don't let you out. I've spoken with multiple people who've been committed and had to "fake a recovery" to be released. Personally, the first thing I would do after being released in such a situation would be to cut out of my life whoever it was that committed me, as legally and finally as possible, so that they could never do something like that again.
That's quite a cruel thing to say to somebody that's suicidally depressed. When you're in that state, every single day is agony and there's little hope for it ever to get better. From that perspective, you are the selfish one for forcing someone else to live in agony for your own pleasure. If you want your suicidal loved ones not to commit suicide, focus on helping reduce the agony, not hurling accusations at them.
As someone who's struggled with depression and suicidal ideation since childhood (not going to do it, don't worry) -- the cliche "a permanent solution to a temporary problem" is the opposite of helpful. For many people, it's not a temporary problem, it's a lifelong one that you just have to learn to live with (or not). Hearing something like that, for a suicidal person, just reinforces how isolated and misunderstood they feel.
I didn't know Chris but I think I understand what he was thinking. He was in too much pain to be...
It seems that you're missing the point of the article here. The author clearly states that one's experiences strongly inform his or her opinions, which are, to the person who holds that opinion, valid. The author, in that segment, was putting forward a combination of a hypothetical situation (women who grew up around jocks that took their consent for granted) and his own experiences (the shy but well-intentioned nerds he hung around with). You've had your experiences, and the author's had his experiences. They would both seem valid to you and him because t
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