-not much time has passed since the first use of language (by prehistoric people) to this day, so it can be assumed that only a negligible part of the possible mental calculations/connections has occured
Regardless of when language emerged (plausibly 50,000-200,000 years ago), we can probably agree that only a negligible part of "possible mental connections have occurred." However, this in itself does not seem a compelling reason to worry about a hypothetical mental illness that we have never seen before.
-there is no direct survival bonus through...
Not an answer to your question, but: what gave you the idea of this illness? Are you seriously concerned about the possibility of such an illness arising, or are you entertaining the idea for something like a science fiction story?
number of matches, number of replies to messages, number of dates, number of longterm relationships
I personally don't have a desire to maximize any of these numbers. Do you know anyone who explicitly wants to maximize "number of longterm relationships?"
I was being Socratic but the point I was trying to make is that I don't think there exists *any* metric that can adequately capture what people are looking for in a relationship. Hence, it becomes difficult to conclude that anyone is being "suboptimal", either.
How do you measure "success" at dating? It is not clear to me that most people are "bad" at it unless you define the criteria for success.
I made tulpas because I was curious about the phenomenon. I did not find the creation process difficult. I thought for a long time about how to make tulpas useful but the best application I could find for them is possibly as a way of training an internal random number generator. I imagine they would be useful for fiction writing as well.