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Issues, Bugs, and Requested Features
Lewsome10

I agree with komponisto somewhat, even though I'm a newbie around here. I think the danger of this putatively 'democratically constructed' body of discourse sliding off the precipice into becoming a mutual admiration society or worse are sufficient that there needs to be some discipline applied to dismissive actions. Therefore, some form of reporting on why one has been 'disappeared' might be in order. In the case of being downvoted out of existence, an automatic message stating this could be sent to one's profile (attached to the draft) with minimal eff... (read more)

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Hold Off On Proposing Solutions
Lewsome60

The notion of delaying proposition of 'solutions' as long as possible seems an excellent technique for group work where stated propositions not only appear prematurely but become entangled with other, perhaps unproductive interpersonal dynamics, and where the energy of the deliberately 'unmade up' group mind can possibly assist the individual to internally change position. The thorny bit for me however, is the individual trying to 'hold that non-thought' - a challenge that is more or less equivalent to stopping, or even slowing the thought process deliber... (read more)

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4ericn
It's okay to think up solutions. You just have to write them down and refocus on the problem. This is how a brainstorming session is supposed to work. The main goal of the facilitator is to keep the group criticism from spinning out of control. Usually, if someone proposes a solution, someone will shout out an objection to it. But we should still be thinking about the problem. Just write down the solution and shush the objection, then return to the problem.
5HughRistik
I think you are going to have to give some examples of perceptions I've presented that you consider distorted. There is a lot of data on average female preferences that I discuss here. On average, women are attracted to various masculine traits, including extraversion and dominance. Dominance by men is attractive to women, at least when displayed towards other people, though dominance-based status may be inferior to prestige-based status. There is some evidence showing that Agreeableness is attractive to women, yet strangely men with higher Agreeableness don't show higher success with women. Women often tend to associate sex with submission and have submissive sexual fantasies. Any man, roving seducer or not, should know these things and take them into account when interacting with women. I also presented the hypothesis that some women in alternative subcultures are often wired differently.