I came to this site because I was worried about AI, I’ve stayed solely for your long-form takes. I have an inkling that our political outlooks are quite different but I think you’re a good writer and there’s a humanity to your writing that is valuable and rare.
The UK is a hellscape in many ways, but children have a lot more freedom here than in the US. My kids play out on the street most days in summer. They walk to and from school every day; when they hit 10, they’ll be allowed to walk on their own. There’s a big park which we all stop at on the way home ...
Not a doctor, but have you explored whether neurodiversity is part of the picture? What you're describing sounds similar to how adults with PDA describe their experience.
Another helpful route might be to practice self-acceptance and stop blaming yourself for not being 'naturally' geared towards doing laundry. Once you do this you can focus on ways of solving the issue, e.g. paying someone to do the things you find hard.