I'm thinking of someone I work with, who is quite definitely less good looking than just "plain". Aesthetically awful. However, she dresses and does her makeup immaculately, and then projects through personality. And this seems to work for attraction.

And a short fat guy who is brilliantly witty and perceptive and dresses well will never be short of a girlfriend.

MendelSchmiedekamp's message is one of hope: this stuff is reducible and many have reduced it before, so get learning.