What I wish you meant by this: "...so of course we're warming up the banhammer now!"

What you seem by this: "...so we won't be doing a thing to make this a space any less toxic for an inexplicably underrepresented majority."

I was really hoping this would be a come-for-the-fan-fiction-stay-for-the-awesome-forum situation, but if this community's priorities are accurately reflected (and please, please do prove me wrong) by the response "Come back and ask us to respect your humanity once everyone else has gotten their rocks off," then that is...exceedingly disappointing.