ChristianKl comments on "Stupid" questions thread - Less Wrong

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Comment author: ChristianKl 16 July 2013 08:48:51AM *  2 points [-]

Knowing people's names is important, and it's useful to use them when appropriate, but inserting them into conversations where they do not belong is a known influence technique that will make other people cautious.

It probably depends on the context. If you in a context like a sales conversation people might get cautious. In other context you might like a person trying to be nice to you.

But you are right that there the issue of artificialness. It can be strange if things don't flow naturally. I think that's more a matter of how you do it rather than how much or when.

At the beginning, just starting to greet people with their name can be a step forward. I think in most cultures that's an appropriate thing to do, even if not everyone does it.

I would also add that I'm from Germany, so my cultural background is a bit different than the American one.