So continue burning through therapists in the hope of being understood.

I don't know. Note that this answer is different from "continue with what you were doing". One of the points here is that any advice has to be highly personalized and generic recommendations are quite useless.

As an aside, are you looking for a therapist to understand you, or to effect some change in you?

How can I restate it to get a more answerable question?

I don't think you can get a useful answer from strangers on the 'net.