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A list of some posts that are pretty awesome
I recommend the major sequences to everybody, but I realize how daunting they look at first. So for purposes of immediate gratification, the following posts are particularly interesting/illuminating/provocative and don't require any previous reading:
- The Worst Argument in the World
- That Alien Message
- How to Convince Me that 2 + 2 = 3
- Lawful Uncertainty
- Your Intuitions are Not Magic
- The Planning Fallacy
- The Apologist and the Revolutionary
- Scope Insensitivity
- The Allais Paradox (with two followups)
- We Change Our Minds Less Often Than We Think
- The Least Convenient Possible World
- The Third Alternative
- The Domain of Your Utility Function
- Newcomb's Problem and Regret of Rationality
- The True Prisoner's Dilemma
- The Tragedy of Group Selectionism
- Policy Debates Should Not Appear One-Sided
More suggestions are welcome! Or just check out the top-rated posts from the history of Less Wrong. Most posts at +50 or more are well worth your time.
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Been looking for this for a few moments. I don't see much to expand on myself. I found out about LW when someone pointed me to the 1000-year old vampire post which I really liked.
And that's almost enough for now. I tried using the search but I didn't get the thing I wanted. All or fucking nothing I guess: What's the best way to ask a girl out?
"Best" means a lot of things that I'm naturally not aware of otherwise I wouldn't be asking this :) But true, I feel like there's a lot of things to account for in "best" that I might not be realistically able to do in different situations.
If you're asking why I'm asking this, it's just because although I manage a conversation (I do have an almost severe aversion to inane conversations/topics so sometimes I really have nothing to say, and in the case I do I always think "this is stupid but.. fucking conversation") at a level I consider okayish (could work on this too, but that's an entirely different topic) I always feel like "now's not the time". Not sure why. Maybe I'm not getting the right signal or maybe I'm missing it, but I always have this feeling that even though I'd like to do it, I'd probably mess up. Instinctively (or in some cached way) I think I should lead the conversation there but.. well, this is dragging on. So guys (I guess girls too), what's the best way to ask a girl out?
I'm guessing here, but it sounds like you have a very common problem, which people usually call "fear of rejection" but I think should be called "no plan for rejection". We instinctively avoid situations we don't feel able to handle, and in anyone able to think ahead, this includes situations that might lead into situations we don't feel able to handle. And that can feel like now's not the time.
A popular method for fixing this is The Rejection Game. Ask for something and get rejected, once per day, for a month. Your requests should be s... (read more)