Well, didn't expect other people besides myself and OrphanWilde to still be reading this thread, updating on that.

The people who I'm talking about are LW participants, I wouldn't ask them to give me feedback and advice on my writing and engagement otherwise, what's the point of doing so? To be clear, far from all of them upvote my comments, as they don't agree with everything I write, of course. And my point in bringing their attention to it is for me to improve my communication, and also help myself update. It's harder to update when things are said in a hostile way by faceless LW commenters, but my friends can provide me with a trusted external perspective on things. They do tend to agree with most stuff, sometimes choose to upvote, and rarely comment, for the reasons stated above.

I'm sharing all of this for the sake of transparency, as this is a strong value I hold. Not something I had to share, and I know it arouses suspicions, but this is my choice due to my personal value system.