Consider
From what I understand, technological progress happens exponentially.
vs.
Technological progress happens exponentially.
The difference is the "from what I understand" part. Other examples of such qualifiers include:
- It seems to me
- My impression is that
- I could be wrong, but
- Perhaps
- Probably
Using such qualifiers may be annoying. It is probably easier and quicker to just skip them. It also might add "fluff" and distract from the main point.
On the other hand, I worry that omitting them would lead to overconfidence. If you say "X is true" enough times instead of "It seems to me that X is true; I'm pretty confident but not super confident", it seems likely that you'd develop a nontrivial overconfidence in X.
Of course, the answer to "Should we use qualifiers in speech?" is almost certainly, "It depends". But despite that, it still seems like it'd be pretty useful to figure out what the "default" or "your go-to" should be.
Personally I lean pretty strongly towards using them when doing intellectual things, like here on LessWrong. But in everyday life I lean towards avoiding them, because it goes against norms, is a little awkward, and doesn't have nearly as big a benefit as when you're doing intellectual things.
I'm curious, after your work experience since then, if you still think the tech lead's comment was about the information you were conveying, or in your tone and specific wording choice. Like if instead of, "I can't do it without help or that it would take me a while," he knew you'd do better rephrasing it as something like, "In order to do that, I'll need to allocate X days/weeks, as well ad [any other resources or people you expect to need, for how long, for what parts]," followed by (depending on the company's practices) "Would you like me to write up a proposal for that?" or "How should I prioritize that relative to my other projects?"
In my experience, "Projecting confidence" can also often be achieved by speaking clearly and precisely, stating things in the affirmative more than the negative, and claiming enough status to be worth the investment necessary to do what's asked of me, without compromising the informational content aside from emotional valence. It also makes it easier for my bosses to act on my answers without putting in planning work themselves.