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Capla comments on Open thread, Dec. 22 - Dec. 28, 2014 - Less Wrong Discussion

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Comment author: Capla 26 December 2014 02:03:39AM *  1 point [-]

When they start to interact, they get more and more information about well they get along, the kind of things the other person enjoys etc. This is a fun process if you're attracted to someone, and you can get more and more interested in them.

This applies equally to getting to know someone in a non-romantic context, and in fact fairly well describes my excitement at meeting someone who I think might be a potential friend. Why is it sometimes feelings of love instead of friendship?

(Note that this is in the context of not really understanding the difference between a friend-relationship and a romantic-relationship.)

Comment author: hyporational 26 December 2014 05:17:58AM 2 points [-]

Why is it sometimes feelings of love instead of friendship.

Could be just context and interpretation, which do make the psychological reality of the situation different.

Comment author: drethelin 26 December 2014 08:35:43AM 0 points [-]

I don't think there's a good answer to that apart from some mishmash of happenstance, pheromones, social context, and neurological variation.