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links 3/28/25: https://roamresearch.com/#/app/srcpublic/page/03-28-2025

 

links 3/27/25: https://roamresearch.com/#/app/srcpublic/page/03-27-2025

 

  • https://www.secondperson.dating/p/navigation-by-moonlight
    • essentialist? sure. but this seems like an approximately right version of what "feels natural" to me and gets missed by most men I know.
      • most self-help revolves around "if you have a problem, here's how to take action to fix it", and there's a frame from which every version of this is missing the point.
        • sometimes the thing that is needed is not solving the problem but encouragement & support in the existing situation, reassurance that it's a normal situation to be in and doesn't reflect poorly on you, hope that things will get better...
        • sometimes the real "need" isn't a solution to the alleged problem but sympathetic social support itself. the "problem" being complained about is just a pretext; if it were "solved" you'd pick another problem to complain about; the point is that you need friends who care about you. this is a real need! people suffer without it! yet another book of advice on how to solve today's problem yourself is not going to help you acquire friends who would take care of you if you were completely helpless.
      • obviously if you like a guy and you are following vaguely feminine social scripts your first option is going to be "make yourself conspicuously attractive and show interest in him" rather than "ask him out." it's not that asking is totally taboo, but it's not the default first move! most people start out by trying to execute the briefs assigned to them by society, and only reject those expectations if they find them intolerable.
  • https://www.ggd.world/p/how-do-radical-ideas-go-mainstream
    • mostly, reforms to social mores (and IMO feminism was a good one) happen through a process of "mainstreaming" that sands off the radical rough edges and makes them palatable to the general public. IMO this is also a good thing; it's what makes social change a process of persuasion and winning-over rather than an arbitrary dictate.
      • the weirdness of the past 15 years or so is that a bunch of changes skipped straight from Tumblr to the boardroom, leaving everyone else puzzled and dismayed. For a lot of little social-mores things -- like "should we have people in videos describe their appearance for the benefit of the blind?" -- it's not clear what the objectively right answer is, but it is clear that persuading most people to agree (on virtually any halfway-sane policy) is better than springing a baffling new policy on them and then having predictably bitter conflict over it.
  • https://www.startrek.com/news/shirts-and-skins-in-tos
    • the command uniforms in Star Trek were green, not gold. their shifting color is an artifact of lighting.
  • https://thechinaproject.com/2023/06/15/chinas-war-on-drugs-from-incarceration-to-rehabilitation/ a laudatory piece on China's approach to drug addiction. it's described as "compassionate" and "humane" but the bottom line is that drug use is not treated as a crime but rehab is mandatory for all. outpatient first, and then in state-run facilities if the person isn't going to the outpatient rehab.
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links 3/25/25: https://roamresearch.com/#/app/srcpublic/page/03-25-2025

links 3/24/25: https://roamresearch.com/#/app/srcpublic/page/03-24-2025

This was the author's claim -- thanks for the counter-evidence!

links 02/27/25: https://roamresearch.com/#/app/srcpublic/page/02-27-2025

links 2/25/25: https://roamresearch.com/#/app/srcpublic/page/02-25-2025

 

links 1/21/2025: https://roamresearch.com/#/app/srcpublic/page/02-21-2025

 

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