The more removed someone is from me, the fewer resources I should expend per unit of their suffering.
We could make this ethical theory quantifiable, by using some constant (a coefficient in the exponent of the distance-care function) such that E=1 means you care about everyone's suffering equally, E=0 means you do not care about anyone else's suffering at all, and then we could argue that the optimal value is e.g. E=0.7635554, and perhaps conclude that people with E > 0.7635554 are just virtue signalling, and people with E<0.7635554 are selfish assholes.
This is inspired by a long and passionate post from Bernd Clemens Huber. It was off-topic in its original context so I will respond to it here.
Briefly, Bernd makes a convincing case that most animals living in the wild spend most of their time experiencing fear, hunger, and suffering. He then goes on to say that this imposes an ethical obligation on humans to do everything possible to prevent seeding life on other planets to avoid spreading more suffering. Bernd, please respond and correct me if I'm not accurately summarizing your position.
I see two implicit axioms here that I would like to question explicitly.
Perhaps the hope that one's descendants will someday escape scarcity and predation like humans have makes one's current suffering "worth it"
Some of LessWrong's famous dilemmas can be seen instead as a reductio ad absurdium argument for my distance-penalized concern model:
Note: If someone has already made these points, I'd be grateful for a link. Thanks.