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I cannot imagine participating in this community for any length of time and sincerely concluding that the mental state you've described is actually universal.
For obvious reasons, I'm extremely curious to hear your analysis if you're willing to share. (Feel free to PM me.)
Probably this is going to be too blunt, but it's honest, and I'm assuming you'd prefer that:
Basically, because you are psychotic, not an asshole (or at least, afaict, only an asshole as a consequence). And dealing with people who are behaving poorly because of mental issues is a hard problem, especially in a community where so many people have mental issues of one sort or another.
Again, this doesn't mean I disagree with you (and again neither have I claimed to agree). The fact of your psychosis is not obviously prior to your beliefs.... (read more)
Ah, thanks. Turns out I do know who you are and have already thought about the question of why (and to what extent) the community continues to interact with you to my satisfaction. (And yes, the throwaway's description of you is somewhat misleading, though mostly that's because, from their behavior, I would expect anyone they praise to be terrible without redeeming features).
This is about behavior, not belief.
I have not disputed "autogynephilic men with repressed femininity and a crossdressing fetish pretending to be women aren't actually women", though neither have I affirmed it.
Regardless, I still would not want you, personally, in any community I'm part of, because your behavior is bad. I'm not interested in debating this this; obviously we disagree on what acceptable behavior looks like. Whatever; different strokes for different folks - clearly this community is not for you, but also you seem to still be here, for some reason.
And I would still want to know who's going around trying to convince people of that statement, so that I could avoid them (for their proselytizing, not for their beliefs) and/or assess why the community has not yet shunned them. (Obviously you can shun the community while it simultaneously shuns you. These are not mutually exclusive.)
So, again, I still want to know who you're talking about. Who are you talking about?
A specific other person intuitively sounds better to me, but that might just be because that's how it has been done in organizations I've been in. (Though it sounds hard to schedule if it's not a specific person, otherwise, and it's important that this be a regular thing with the specific topic of "talk about how things are going", not just general spending time together.) Maybe your second in command, maybe a different person from the command structure - I assume there's going to be people other than you with roles like "general household management" (I am thinking of office managers, if you're familiar).
I don't think the pair time accomplishes quite this.... (read more)
despite the efforts of a very valiant man, people have still not realized that autogynephilic men with repressed femininity and a crossdressing fetish pretending to be women aren't actually women
Being only on the periphery of the community, I'm extremely curious who said valiant man is (full disclosure: this is so I can avoid them and/or assess why the community has not yet shunned them, as I would hope they'd shun you).
This is a neat idea!
I expect it to fail. And I kind of wish you wouldn't try: I give maybe a 1/4 chance this fails sufficiently dramatically and publicly that I become less willing to be associated with the community because people start associating it with that failure.
In particular, here is what I expect to happen (~60% confidence it goes down something like this):
Someone will start regularly defecting within the first three months. Maybe they don't keep up with their chores, maybe they skip meetings, maybe they fail to get along with someone and they fight, maybe they persist in doing something they've been asked repeatedly not to do, maybe they chafe
Sure. And we do put relatively more emphasis. But we have not completely and totally thrown away all social convention. Nor should we: much of it exists for good reason.