This person (segfault) is a liar. In particular, he is lying about caring about consent. He claims to, and gives a lot of lip service to the idea, but in fact he directly violates consent all the time, including explicit safewords. Immediately after the exchange below, he went and visited the other person anyway, and has been harassing her ever since, up to and including making wild accusations against her coach and getting himself banned from Stanford campus.
No, but these things are:
"Thank you, Duncan. I honestly think you’ve changed my life."
"Miss you. Virtually." (after being blocked)
"You're one of the best people I know." (contrast with the present-day "we don't know each other at all, wtf")
~"I'd gladly send you $200 if it meant you could get a babysitter and come to my drug/sex/music party."
And this:
(There are plenty more examples.)
It doesn't quite work to "remind" people of a thing that isn't true.
What he is being accused of are, basically, his literal actions, on-the-record. One might object to summaries like "manic" and "crazy" if they seem inappropriate, but in this case they are clearly appropriate and given all of the evidence, the burden of demonstration is on "here's why this massive pile of obsession and harassment shouldn't be considered crazy."
(Or "here's why these hundreds of fevered and pressured messages that often contain paranoia and catastrophizing and grandiosity, including mentions of e.g. working 17 hours a day, 7 days a week and routinely sleeping less than six hours a night, shouldn't be considered... (read more)
("I've been wearing my 'I fucking love science!' shirt since early college" doesn't make one a scientist.)
(Disambiguation: not the originally linked tweet thread, but the inciting incident that caused the originally linked tweet thread to be written.)
Standard M.O. from segfault is to simply never address this inconvenient bit of reality. I would be slightly surprised if he replies at all, as opposed to ignoring this subthread now that you've posted the screenshot.
Are you seriously pretending that you don't know how to look at a tweet in an incognito window? You seem to have been expertly doing so in, uh, "other cases".
Gendlin’s Focusing technique is super rad. I know this because everybody keeps telling me so.
(Okay, not quite everybody, but a really tediously large percentage of the people in my online social circle.)
But I’ve tried it a bunch of times, in a bunch of variants, with a bunch of qualified mentors trying to help, and it’s just never clicked. I’ve listened to the audio book and gone through all the steps, and it just doesn’t do anything for me.
So here’s my variant—the thing that I do instead, which I claim is using the same hardware and software and providing me with the same kind of improved introspective access. If you’re one of those... (read 2043 more words →)
(Plenty) more detail available here.