A very good point, thanks. I will try to improve on that.
The next time I write a sentence with so many qualifiers, I should probably just write „not sure“.
I wrote a 4-minute read blog post about the idea that a tough choice is always preceded by a disappointment. I assume this is pretty straight forward and not very surprising for readers used to Bayesian thinking, but I have never seen it spelled out in this way, so I thought I could try it.
Epistemic Status: I think this is so obvious that it’s most certainly true in most situations. Don’t know if it’s helpful, though.
https://blog.maralorn.de/post/tough-choices
Also, I am trying to get better at writing (in English) so I am grateful for feedback.
I agree with your definition of disappointment. And I agree that the concepts choice and disappointment are quite far apart.
My biggest point was "accept the world first", like you said. The open question is how common the problem I tried to describe is.
I still have the feeling that not having accepted a disappointment is a common reason for choices to feel hard. That doesn‘t seem obvious with your definition of “tough” choice, though. I was going for a more narrow definition, which would make that statement more tautological. I like your definition, and mine was a bit ad-hoc.
Need to think more about this …