Musclyneck

(I appreciated Said's comments on early woo stuff on this site, and I also appreciated the push back along the lines of, if you daily require a newly opened restaurant to show you a profit, you won't ever see a profit.)

Reading through the litigation, I think the egregoric issue is the Voice of the People play. Public figures with public mandates get semi-possessed by what they imagine to be the shared soul of the movement, even as the "shared soul" seems to value, above all,  inability to be possessed.

People get "manipulated", by this person's persistent and assertive and emotive comments, into defensive engagement-- to the point that they are (not completely legibly)... (read more)

I think part of the point though is that (Buddhists believe) people are actually suffering during states of being that they would describe as "doing just fine". And that (oversimplifying the view to a culty frame) the 99% of people who aren't Buddhist or similar are clueless that this "doing just fine" state is actually suffering. So, the standard self report definition isn't actually relevant (to this point, under this view.)

I think that there can be some light in this, an example that comes to mind is someone with phone addiction-- as soon as they get home from work, they use their phone throughout dinner, the whole evening, and into the night.

An... (read more)

Right the delineation is associated with motive-root identity. 

It's definitely embedded in the English language... Considering the word "insufferable", spending time with someone who is sufferable, you can accept it, bear it, spend the whole time wishing you were somewhere else, but not with such agitation as with someone who's insufferable.

Suffering is both unbearable and urgently agitating, but usually ongoing and outside of your control.

One aspect of it is your emotional focus toward the problem... Why is it like that, why can't I change it, ... You "suffer" more the more you think about it. Commonly with respect to other people in the community not improving, or other people in the relationship or... (read more)

I'm bouncing off of this post in particular as just one example of many IFS posts. But not disrespectfully. Hopefully.

I think one possible branching is that the "head" self is the one that sees itself as lasting for the duration of ones biological lifetime. What I mean by this is, in the eyes of the head self, all these other parts have their identity mostly encapsulated within one or another cell of experience. "I need my partner to do X"-part, may "heal" into, "I need to feel X kind of safety"-part.....but on either level the part is parted around a discrete situation.

The "head" feels a compulsion to reframe the other parts' violent... (read 460 more words →)

Hello! I've been feeling a separation between my dissociated and non-dissociated self that feels in some ways and not others, similar to what you describe.

• movement: dissociated, I move myself like a marionette; I get feedback, but its binary (efficient/futile); if anything original comes up its like it comes from a brute force search; pretty much like you wrote about moving through the territory with all the movement's goals being on the map level. The actual manner of my movement is really sprite-like; like those joggers who run like they're half-bouncing against an invisible wall in front of them, I move in a really repetitive way that accepts no feedback on how I'm feeling