You're right about growing. Typically, people on a 'growth agenda' search for and adopt new ways/ideas over time. These 'methods' are initially freeing us to grow, but ultimately the method needs to be jettisoned as it becomes a trap for habitual or ritualised behaviour. The self-actualised state is achievable, but not sustainable because the shifts in world around us and within us. Helping or serving others seems obligatory to me.