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I have some suspicions about the survey that says 2/3 of people were friends before partners. Looking at it superficially, they did rely on a particular set of college people. In my own educated circle in HCOL cities, it’s practically unheard of.

The Reddit-tier level advice of “wash your ass, comb your hair” is not so much about actually trying to help men - so much as signal “I’m better than other men”. If you’re physically unattractive, dating apps can’t help you. 90% of this is determined by genetics. You can certainly sandbag an attractive man but you can’t make an ugly man good looking. For apps, even though we list out many... (read more)

I think of it as a jigsaw puzzle for every person. There are a lot of pieces for every puzzle but I'm sure each piece is working against you. The other aspect is that some pieces are far larger for some and much smaller for others. e.g. you're 4'10" as a man who dates women, your height is probably the single biggest piece working against you.

More generalized pieces:
- You have no third spaces to meet people and form longer bonds. The shift in the way people meet has all been on very superficial places now. (dating apps, bars)
- Increased emphasis on lookism (maybe this ties in with social media - e.g. tiktok,... (read 1380 more words →)