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LW Women Submissions: On Misogyny
sockpuppet210

It's a good post. It doesn't give me any information about whether I'm wrong, because both "Most men are brutes" and "Females prefer self-centered males" predict that many women will have such stories.

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LW Women Submissions: On Misogyny
sockpuppet2-20

Several studies have shown that it's common for women to fantasize about being raped. I think it's rare for men to do so, tho I don't remember if the studies showed that. This is relevant though not conclusive information.

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6bogus
It's not as relevant as you assume, because the description of these as "rape fantasies" is much too simplistic. Most often, such fantasies clearly reject many and perhaps most relevant features of actual sexual violence. (The wiki article has references for this info.) Women are most likely sensible enough to know this and take this into account, so the fact that they indulge in such fantasies does not tell us much about what kinds of men they want.
LW Women Submissions: On Misogyny
sockpuppet2-10

Substitute in correlate for constitute (which is what I was already doing; I assumed "part of" meant "projection of my multi-dimensional evaluation onto non-misogyny dimension), and my point remains the same.

Similarly, women don't necessarily want to be abused. But some quality that women want very much correlates strongly with being abusive. They have to figure out what it is, and give it up. Or keep it, and stop complaining.

I bet that [restated] female receptivity to mistreatment [/restated] goes way back in mammalian evolution. It's comm... (read more)

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3A1987dM
To paraphrase a discussion that went on in a different thread a few months ago... Nerds in school don't necessarily want to be bullied. But they do want to study physics and watch anime, which correlates strongly with being bullied. They have to give it up. Or keep it, and stop complaining. Don't get me wrong: I'm not saying that if a woman finds that sexy non-abusive men are rare and usually already taken, then the best thing she could do is whine about it; but I can see where she's coming from, and I wouldn't blame her if she doesn't unreluctantly opt to pursue a non-abusive man even if he's not sexy, even though it may be the least of three evils. (The women I personally know typically opt to stay single until the right man comes along, but they might not be representative of the population in general.) Downvoted for this alone. What people want and why they evolved to want that are separate questions.
7drethelin
A large part of why it's important to make posts like these (if it is) is to show you that your assumptions about the men you know are likely to be WRONG, and that "as far as you know" isn't far enough.
2bogus
Really? How very nice of you. That said, it seems to me that some women told you about things they do like, and you weren't happy with the answer. Perhaps you should educate yourself about the differences between freely-entered-into sexual roleplay and actual abuse or violence.
7A1987dM
Doesn't follow. It'd suffice for non-misogyny to correlate with your criteria more than with their criteria.