Bobertron comments on Open Thread May 2 - May 8, 2016 - Less Wrong

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Comment author: Bobertron 07 May 2016 08:57:08PM 3 points [-]
Comment author: Viliam 09 May 2016 09:09:47AM *  4 points [-]

Yep. I'll try to make a short summary of some arguments in the article and comments:

Why people want to be mean:

  • it signals strength (in the ancient environment it shows you are not afraid of being hit in return);
  • it signals intellectual superiority e.g. in the form of sarcasm;
  • if you already have a reputation, you can win debates quickly;
  • it helps you put distance towards people you want to avoid.

What are the negative impacts of meanness:

  • you may be wrong, but you have already proposed a solution ("the other person is stupid");
  • if there is a misunderstanding, hostile reaction lowers the chance of explaining or increases the time needed, compared with a polite request for clarification;
  • people will different experience will seem especially wrong to you, so this effect will be even stronger there;
  • you spread bad mood, which harms curiosity and exploration;
  • you signal that you are bad at cooperation, bad at managing your emotions, not caring about other people;
  • people stop listening to you and start avoiding you;
  • you lose possible allies.