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Success in social interaction is not about holding more things in your head but often about holding less things in your head.
It's better to do exercises that raise physical presence as the one's suggested in "The Charisma Myth".
Sounds like we do need to go into the longer conversation.
I view most of these skills are something like the follows: at level 0, you have no clue what's going on; at level 1, you have a system 2 model of what's going on that's too slow / clumsy to operate successfully in real time; at level 2, you have a system 1 model of what's going on that's fast and good enough to operate successfully in real time.
Most people go directly from... (read more)