For a long time I've wondered how to measure nonconformity. To measure nonconformity I needed to define "nonconformity". But no matter how I defined "nonconformity" my definitions felt so subjective they could apply to anybody, from a certain point of view. If everybody is nonconformist then nobody is nonconformist because the word "nonconformist" isn't meaningful.
Today I realized that the opposite of conformity is audacity.
audacity
noun, plural au·dac·i·ties.
boldness or daring, especially with confident or arrogant disregard for personal safety, conventional thought, or other restrictions.
effrontery or insolence; shameless boldness: His questioner's audacity shocked the lecturer.
Usually audacities . audacious or particularly bold or daring acts or statements.
Audacity is bold, daring, shameless and impertinent. Cultivate these qualities and you will cultivate nonconformity.
My favorite technique of boldness is to simply tell the truth. One trick is to never prefix statements with "I believe". Don't say "I believe ". If is true then just say "". (If is untrue then don't say and don't believe .) The unqualified statement is bolder. Crocker's rules encode boldness into a social norm.
Daring comes from doing things that scare you.
Shamelessness comes from not caring what other people think on short time horizons.
The most impressive people I know care a lot about what people think, even people whose opinions they really shouldn’t value (a surprising numbers of them do something like keeping a folder of screenshots of tweets from haters). But what makes them unusual is that they generally care about other people’s opinions on a very long time horizon—as long as the history books get it right, they take some pride in letting the newspapers get it wrong.
―The Strength of Being Misunderstood by Sam Altman
Impertinence comes from treating superiors as equals. I don't know how to cultivate impertinence because I'm status-blind to begin with. Impertinence is the opposite of submission; it is dangerous to be impertinent when your livelihood is on the line.
I think so. Or, taking the specific kind of boldness lsusr mentions -- making statements without qualifications that might make them sound weaker -- this is a thing one will very often hear from religious or political fanatics, who may well have arrived at their views by pure conformism.
Or maybe a bunch of your friends join a secret society with a scary initiation ritual, and you go ahead with it because you want to be like your friends. Or you're part of a culture in which men who reach adolescence are expected to go and hunt a tiger or stay in the wilderness for a week or something, and you go ahead and do it because that's what everybody does. (Of course you might also be doing it because if you don't the tribal elders will kill you, in which case it wouldn't count as daring.) Or you're a member of the Westboro Baptist Church and you go with everyone else to picket military funerals with signs saying GOD HATES FAGS and GOD HATES AMERICA, even though you're worried that someone in the crowd may pick a fight. (This one is marginal, because someone in that position is nonconformist relative to the culture at large but conformist relative to what directly surrounds them. I think the latter is probably the thing that's both harder and more important to escape.)