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By the way, I find it amusing that on some level this whole website is about how to have the "tell culture" with a superhuman artificial intelligence. And how difficult it is to consent to the right things.
By unspoken assumptions I mean something like this: Is it okay if you afterwards write a blog with detailed descriptions of the sex you had? Is it okay if you simultaneously date her sister / mother / daughter without telling her? (Let's assume that your explicit agreement was "each of us can have other partners, no need to tell each other", but she absolutely didn't expect it could be anyone in her family.) Is it okay if you afterwards tell her that you had sex with her just to win a public bet on a prediction market? Neither of these things violate the explicit agreement you had.
And how exactly would the "information that the other person needs" be determined, without some cultural assumption? Is it okay if I forget to mention that I am a Sagittarius, or a 1/64 black person, or a trans woman, or that I voted for Trump?
That's not how an agreement of someone who practices tell culture looks like. It starts with the fact that in tell culture you usually don't make agreement not to tell each other things because both participants value exchange of information.
Secondly oeople in guess culture might have an agreement that boils down to a single sentence but people who practice tell culture usually speak more about the expectations that they have.
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