Note: We will be meeting in Aumann Hall this week.
Note 2: Thank you to Matt Kinkele for hosting on-site logistics this week while I (Garrett) am visiting family for the new years.
Come get old-fashioned with us, and let's read the sequences at Lighthaven! We'll show up, mingle, do intros, and then split off into randomized groups for some sequences discussion. Please do the reading beforehand - it should be no more than 20 minutes of reading.
This group is aimed for people who are new to the sequences and would enjoy a group experience, but also for people who've been around LessWrong and LessWrong meetups for a while and would like a refresher.
This... (read 297 more words →)
Note: We will be meeting in Aumann Hall this week.
Note 2: Thank you to Baram Sosis for hosting on-site logistics this week while I (Garrett) am visiting family for the new years.
Note 3 (I promise this is the last note): I apologize for posting this meetup post pretty late, I apparently have a bad case of vacation-brain.
Come get old-fashioned with us, and let's read the sequences at Lighthaven! We'll show up, mingle, do intros, and then split off into randomized groups for some sequences discussion. Please do the reading beforehand - it should be no more than 20 minutes of reading.
This group is aimed for people who are new to the sequences... (read 324 more words →)
Note: We will be meeting in Cantor Hall this week.
Note 2: Thank you to Elijah Ravitz-Campbell for hosting on-site logistics this week while I (Garrett) am on a work retreat.
Come get old-fashioned with us, and let's read the sequences at Lighthaven! We'll show up, mingle, do intros, and then split off into randomized groups for some sequences discussion. Please do the reading beforehand - it should be no more than 20 minutes of reading.
This group is aimed for people who are new to the sequences and would enjoy a group experience, but also for people who've been around LessWrong and LessWrong meetups for a while and would like a refresher.
This meetup will... (read 320 more words →)
Note: We will be meeting in Aumann Hall this week.
Come get old-fashioned with us, and let's read the sequences at Lighthaven! We'll show up, mingle, do intros, and then split off into randomized groups for some sequences discussion. Please do the reading beforehand - it should be no more than 20 minutes of reading.
This group is aimed for people who are new to the sequences and would enjoy a group experience, but also for people who've been around LessWrong and LessWrong meetups for a while and would like a refresher.
This meetup will also have dinner provided! We'll be ordering pizza-of-the-day from Sliver (including 2 vegan pizzas). Please RSVP to this event so... (read 280 more words →)
Note: We will be meeting in Aumann Hall this week.
Come get old-fashioned with us, and let's read the sequences at Lighthaven! We'll show up, mingle, do intros, and then split off into randomized groups for some sequences discussion. Please do the reading beforehand - it should be no more than 20 minutes of reading.
This group is aimed for people who are new to the sequences and would enjoy a group experience, but also for people who've been around LessWrong and LessWrong meetups for a while and would like a refresher.
This meetup will also have dinner provided! We'll be ordering pizza-of-the-day from Sliver (including 2 vegan pizzas). Please RSVP to this event so... (read 281 more words →)
Note: We will be meeting in Rat park and Cantor Hall this week.
Note 2: Thank you to Elijah Ravitz-Campbell for hosting on-site logistics this week while I (Garrett) am sick
Come get old-fashioned with us, and let's read the sequences at Lighthaven! We'll show up, mingle, do intros, and then split off into randomized groups for some sequences discussion. Please do the reading beforehand - it should be no more than 20 minutes of reading.
This group is aimed for people who are new to the sequences and would enjoy a group experience, but also for people who've been around LessWrong and LessWrong meetups for a while and would like a refresher.
This meetup will... (read 301 more words →)
Note: We will be meeting in Rat park and Cantor Hall this week.
Come get old-fashioned with us, and let's read the sequences at Lighthaven! We'll show up, mingle, do intros, and then split off into randomized groups for some sequences discussion. Please do the reading beforehand - it should be no more than 20 minutes of reading.
This group is aimed for people who are new to the sequences and would enjoy a group experience, but also for people who've been around LessWrong and LessWrong meetups for a while and would like a refresher.
This meetup will also have dinner provided! We'll be ordering pizza-of-the-day from Sliver (including 2 vegan pizzas). Please RSVP to... (read 282 more words →)
Note: We will be meeting in Rat park and Cantor Hall this week.
Come get old-fashioned with us, and let's read the sequences at Lighthaven! We'll show up, mingle, do intros, and then split off into randomized groups for some sequences discussion. Please do the reading beforehand - it should be no more than 20 minutes of reading.
This group is aimed for people who are new to the sequences and would enjoy a group experience, but also for people who've been around LessWrong and LessWrong meetups for a while and would like a refresher.
This meetup will also have dinner provided! We'll be ordering pizza-of-the-day from Sliver (including 2 vegan pizzas). Please RSVP to... (read 283 more words →)
Note: We will be meeting in Rat park and Cantor Hall this week.
Come get old-fashioned with us, and let's read the sequences at Lighthaven! We'll show up, mingle, do intros, and then split off into randomized groups for some sequences discussion. Please do the reading beforehand - it should be no more than 20 minutes of reading.
This group is aimed for people who are new to the sequences and would enjoy a group experience, but also for people who've been around LessWrong and LessWrong meetups for a while and would like a refresher.
This meetup will also have dinner provided! We'll be ordering pizza-of-the-day from Sliver (including 2 vegan pizzas). Please RSVP to... (read 285 more words →)
Note: We will be meeting in building F this week.
Come get old-fashioned with us, and let's read the sequences at Lighthaven! We'll show up, mingle, do intros, and then split off into randomized groups for some sequences discussion. Please do the reading beforehand - it should be no more than 20 minutes of reading.
This group is aimed for people who are new to the sequences and would enjoy a group experience, but also for people who've been around LessWrong and LessWrong meetups for a while and would like a refresher.
This meetup will also have dinner provided! We'll be ordering pizza-of-the-day from Sliver (including 2 vegan pizzas). Please RSVP to this event so... (read 285 more words →)
Strong disagree. This is an ineffective way to create boredom. Showers are overly stimulating, with horrible changes in temperature, the sensation of water assaulting you nonstop, and requiring laborious motions to do the bare minimum of scrubbing required to make society not mad at you. A much better way to be bored is to go on a walk outside or lift weights at the gym or listen to me talk about my data cleaning issues
I've been dating Nate for two years (tho wanna clarify we are not doing marriage-kids and we're both actively looking for more serious other partners).
Nate is profoundly wonderful in many ways, like often surprises me in new ways of wonderfulness, and has raised my standards in partners. He's deeply caring, attentive, competent, hilarious, and of course brilliant.
Also, many of the complaints about him in the comments resonate with my experience, particularly your description above. I often find that in disputes I feel dismissed, I perceive him as having a significant lack of curiosity about my worldview (and believe he's explicitly said he's not curious about perspectives he anticipates to have no value... (read more)
why does lesswrong suddenly feel good and homey
I can confirm this. There's a transcript from the interview somewhere, I can dig it up if you want.
Yeaaah the response was weird. One, I deliberately only kept it to facts; I didn't address his tone or the leadup or his framing, I was pretty bare bones like "the concrete claims are wrong." I have a little annoyed if he thinks that's frame control he has no idea. I suspect he might be seriously misunderstanding my writings on frame control.
But also like... for example this paragraph
"Many of the substances one can imagine employing here — most saliently, rohypnol, the date rape drug; but also others — would put people into compromised states in which they could not consent to further sexual activity imposed on them by people who may not... (read more)
I posted it to Facebook first. I was friends/roommates with Persephone, discussed the post beforehand, and offered (or she asked, maybe?) to post it publicly there to get readership so she could also preserve her anonymity. This was scary for me at the time, as afaik I'd seen no negative discussion about Brent like that, and I was new to the community and didn't know the temperature/how people would react. Walking into a new community and being the conduit for a bomb dropping on one of its members is not a comfortable experience. I don't regret it though!
But I never had access to the mittenscautious accounts, and I never had contact with the other poster who had their accounts published. My participation organizing anything was limited almost entirely to making the initial facebook link post.
If you scroll up I summarize it in a tweet just a bit above here
Re the postscript, I go over the claims here
This post is almost entirely factually incorrect, but to go point-by-point
1. For the parties I throw - I assume the person is referring to some of the parties in 2017, as those were the ones that had "a lot of sex"? I agree consent wasn't very clearly set out, but I'm not sure I regret this. I've never had anybody express to me the concerns laid out in the post, this is the first time I'm becoming aware events I've thrown have had a negative impact on people. I do genuinely not want this to happen and am now thinking about what and how to change about my events in the future.... (read 1151 more words →)
Yeah, great point. I think my frame control post is overly simplified and not 100% representative of my full worldview, because I don't have the energy or skill required to put "actually everything is just narrative tho" in there and still maintain my point.
As far as I have the capacity to understand about myself, the 'reclaiming' post was true. It happened seven years ago now, and I still haven't had the issues come back I did prior to that reclaiming moment, and I've had no further detection of unhonored or ignored pain.
But uhhh I'm not sure if I have the clarity right now to stab further at my intuitions around this. I've got a blog post brewing specifically in response to your sort of question and I suspect it'll take a while before it's ready. But I simultaneously want to burn frame control with fire, and also believe it's not inherently bad. Or something.
I stand by the thing I was trying to communicate in point 1, though I might have communicated poorly. I have met many people who are well established, very smart, who are not socially submissive, who still make the little moves that demonstrate vulnerability. I think Eliezer does this, for example.