Meetup : Maine: Automatic Cognition
Discussion article for the meetup : Maine: Automatic Cognition WHEN: 29 June 2015 06:30:00PM (-0400) WHERE: 45 Wight St, Belfast, ME, USA Imuli will present about Systems 1 and 2 and more specifically about the Inner Simulator and the group of questions one can ask of it. As this is...
My thoughts are that you probably havn't read Malcolm's post on communication cultures, or you disagree.
Roughly, different styles of communication cultures (guess, ask, tell) are supported by mutual assumptions of trust in different things (and product hurt and confusion in the absence of that trust). Telling someone you would enjoy a hug is likely to harm a relationship where the other person's assumptions are aligned with ask or guess, even if you don't expect the other person to automatically hug you!
You need to coordinate with people on what type of and which particular culture to use (and that coordination usually happens through inference and experimentation). I certainly expect people who happen to coordinate on a Tell Culture to do better, but I doubt that it works as an intervention, unless they make the underlying adjustments in trust.