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If all the young women you have known didn't want to have their early sexual experiences with you, and if you assume that you have encountered a representative sample of them to show how other young women would likely have rejected you, why would you accept offers of sexual relationships with such women a few years later when their early behavior indicated that viewed you as second rate?
The prospect of getting into a situation where a sexually experienced woman, er, handles me, feels really gross and unsettling, considering how apparently women didn't find me good enough for that purpose when they wanted to explore their own sexuality in their youth. "Next!" Oh, my turn now? Do I want to become one of those guys?
There are several factors to consider:
You are not the same person you were ten years ago, either physically or psychologically. Even if you were not widely considered as attractive back then, that may have changed in the meantime. If that surprises you, it may be because you're assuming you haven't changed anything in ten years, which actually would be reason to worry.
People's preferences shift over time. Those women, too, have changed in ten years. If they have been seeing you all this time, they may have noticed your changes and decided they liked th