We're disagreeing mostly on the "personally confirm" point, I believe - I don't believe that that's true in all cases.

Are we still in disagreement?

Indeed, I think that's the sticking point. Perhaps it would be okay to sometimes offload the moral analysis of a project to a professional who explicitly is doing that (like your company's ethicist, or a manager who has certified that he's done some standard analysis) but it's never okay to simply assume it's been done.